I got married August 2015 to a man I had dated for less than 6 months. Last year I literally lived out my 12-year-old-Casey dreams of meeting a great-looking, godly guy, falling in love, and getting married ASAP.
(No, seriously, I really did day-dream about dating someone for three months and marrying him just a few months later!)
I love my husband and I love being married. Jon is not perfect, but he's embraced husbandhood with humility and passion and a ton of effort. He loves me more than I ever thought humanly possible.
However, it may surprise you to find out that I - a newlywed, pre-kids, pre-stretch marks, and definitely in love with her husband - still struggle with insecurities.
As a single gal, it was easy to expect that the love of a man would dissolve my insecurities, or at least cause them to diminish.
"Once I find a man who loves my body completely, I won't feel ugly anymore."
"When I find a man who loves my personality, I won't feel so weird or awkward."
"I won't feel like a failure in the arms of a man who doesn't expect me to be perfect!"
You get the idea.
But even though Jon loves me, he'll never think I'm perfect. And he shouldn't, because I'm not.
And even though he loves me more than anyone on the planet, he isn't perfect either!
However, my insecurities are meant to be dissolved by a perfect love... just not a perfect human love.
Insecurities truly stem from not understanding how passionately and completely our Heavenly Father feels towards us. We all long for a hero to risk death to save us, and still ignore the face that we've already been saved by a man who defeated Death Itself!
So you see, the source of all your insecurities actually is all about being crazy loved by a Hero, but the source of your freedom comes from knowing you already are.